Go on, hands up who wants to be a better person ... you know, you but just more chilled out, less of a worrier, a bit more cool, more spontaneous, less controlling, blah blah blah.
It's easy to take certain traits of our personality and label them 'good' or 'bad', but is this really correct and what is the outcome of us trying to tweak ourselves like some sort of over-complicated Deliah recipe?
We spend so much of our lives trying to be perfect that we're in danger of losing our connection to who we really are ... a completely unique amalgamation of personality traits, idiosyncrasies, tastes, preferences and values ... all totally valid, all perfectly OK because they make you the beautiful person you are ... right now.
What's wrong with accepting ourselves as we are without trying to 'fix' everything? Sure, it would be nice if I was a bit more relaxed at times and a bit less of a perfectionist but this is who I am ... passionate, opinionated about the things I believe in and, yes, a bit of a control freak. I've spent years trying to let go of control and 'chill the fuck out' but now I choose to celebrate the fact ... It means I'm hyper organised, professional, well planned, thorough ... It shows my passion for what I do and I know it's appreciated by my students.
Don't get me wrong... We still want to strive to bring out our best, but that's very different from trying to change the things that are intrinsically 'us'.
I just mean that when we accept who we are, we can start to work with what we have, instead of yearning to be something we're not.
When we can start to accept ourselves as we are, wholly, truly, we can stop the internal battle, breathe a huge sigh of relief and celebrate ourselves in all our awesomeness. After all who decides which bits of us are 'good' or 'bad'/ We judge ourselves much more harshly than others do so let's start giving ourselves a break people ... life is wonderfully challenging at it is ... enjoy it, but don't add to it by worrying about your perceived shortcomings. You are beautiful as you are, you are enough as you are.
Be completely perfect in your imperfection.